The #1 Characteristic of Confident, Successful and Happy Women

I did a lot of talkin' this month, but the common theme shocked me once again!

In addition to sessions and mentorship circles with my clients, I gave 7 "talks" this month. Let me break it down so you can see the theme:

• The first talk was to an inner-circle coaching group of Realtors wanting to learn how to present themselves so that people want to choose them first from a sea of other Realtors;
• The second talk was on an Image-Confidence Potential call with a lady who became my client. She came to me to explore how she could harness new self-love and boldness to connect with and attract her best clients as a coach & service provider without cookie-cutter visibility tactics.
• The third was to a podcast host and her listeners who wanted to know the secrets of how women bearing all the pressure of life and comparison can find true purpose and share their unique voice.
• The fourth was with a woman who wants to change the face of the male-dominated industry and inspire young women to go into the trades but know she lacks the presence and confidence she'll need to be in the room with the decision-makers, investment-makes and resources-holders;
• The fifth was to yet another woman on an Image-Confidence Potential call on the road to becoming another new client who is ready to own her value so she can stand in new rooms and meet the multi-million dollars worth of investment potential waiting for her;
• The sixth was a business owner client who knows she needs to take a bold leadership position to improve her team.  She is introducing personal confidence development to her team to help them become more assertive, focused and fulfilled on the job, something every business needs in an ever-changing competitive market;
• The seventh, the last, was with a client who took my image-confidence mentorship program and, in the few short years since, has built (from scratch and against some pretty tough personal odds) a business worthy of receiving nationally recognized industry awards. 

I realized something I needed to put down for you on paper (or at least in a blog) about these women in different scenarios. I've seen that over my almost 30 years of helping women shift, change and become their most evolved. It's the #1 characteristic of confident, successful and happy women:

These women all feel a sense of urgent personal discovery to achieve a new result in their lives. They are eager to do, be, create, launch or reclaim something new, and they know that they will get it best if they invest in what they know they don't know and in their self-assurance even before skills and tips.

Women who urgently seek to learn from those who can fill their confidence gap before anything over-promising internet course or fake-guru sparkle are the ones who win and succeed but are also fulfilled beyond measure. Why? Because in the urgency to transform themselves before what they do, they:

• Redefine their self-identity (not just a values list or a purpose statement but their living and lasting contribution to the world),
• Mobilize their authentic expression (not just in their clothing style but how they show up and serve others in everything they do, say, show and stand for - no questions asked or second-guessing),
• Partner with someone who sees their potential even if they can't fully see it themselves (and not just a peer group or fleeting pep-talk chat but someone who has conquered the path they dare to tread and is deeply invested in their success with them - a way-shower.)

These transformative behaviors wrapped up in the urgency to change only happen when a woman is humble enough to accept help and hopeful enough to trust a change process.

Women urgent about getting new results with these 3 actions change their lives and the lives of others.

So now, think about your desires, wants, goals and wishes.  Think about who needs to "see you" so those can come true. Ask yourself a powerful question:

 WHO IS NOT "SEEING YOU" RIGHT NOW, KEEPING YOU FROM THE SUCCESS YOU DESIRE?

Now, put yourself in their shoes. If you saw yourself and your confidence level, would you choose you?  In the words of my new client, "Are you an undeniable 'yes'" in their mind, or do they pass you by.....

One last question to tie this all together....

How urgent are you to get what you desire?

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And if you are done searching, DIY'ing, and spinning your wheels with your confidence to show up and put yourself out there in the most powerful way: